Being Supportive

A woman expecting her first baby has entered a whole new world. There’s a lot to take in, her hormones are going crazy, she’s tired, irritable, sick, her body is changing and a demanding little person is growing inside her. And in a few months that person’s coming out to say hi, one way or the other. It’s no wonder it can be a little scary. So you’re going to need to help her every step of the way.

Here are our top tips for looking after mum-to-be.

You’re having a baby

When told that your partner is having a baby the correct response is to tell her you’re thrilled, you love her and this is going to be a fantastic adventure for both of you. Fainting, saying “How?” or asking if she’s sure it’s yours are not good. Ever.

First trimester

This is where the going starts to get tough for her and she’s going to need you. Hormones may make her moody, she might have bad morning sickness and she’s going to feel tired, so try a little harder. Make sure she gets lots of rest, help with the housework a bit more than usual and breakfast in bed is a points winner every time.

Second trimester

Things have settled down, she’s probably stopped being sick and her hormones are more balanced. In fact you think she looks fantastic. So tell her! This is the time to do lots of stuff together preparing for the baby. Go to the antenatal classes with her, read some of the books and do manly things like researching buggies, car seats and cots. And start decorating the nursery. There might be some scans to go to, so make sure you take time off work to go with her. Even if she says she’ll go on her own, don’t take no for an answer – she’ll thank you for it. Besides, you’ll want to see Baby on the screen too.

Third trimester

No, she hasn’t been at the pies – that’s a baby in there and it’s getting bigger every day. By the end of the pregnancy she might be sore, tired, feeling huge and just wanting it to be over. Make sure you’re keeping on top of the practical things but also keep telling her you’re there every step of the way. Pamper her a bit – make the dinner and run her a bath and get all your preparations for the big day done and dusted.

It’s time!

Anywhere from 38 weeks she could go into labour, so you’re going to have to say no to that work trip to Barbados and stay off the booze in case you suddenly have to drive to the hospital. Be at the end of the phone when you’re away from her at work and get everything ready at home. She’s probably getting nervous about the fact that a baby is going to come out shortly, so be reassuring. Have a think about how you’d feel if you were about to give birth. Got that image in your head? Right, now go and be thankful and give her a cuddle.