Antenatal classes

They’re not for me are they? I mean – it’s the most natural thing in the world, giving birth and looking after a baby. And anyway, it’s just for girls and she’ll know all about whatever it is.

 Top Reasons For Going To Antenatal Classes…

Your dad didn’t – Long gone are the days when you were introduced to your old man with a firm handshake at around the age of three, maybe with the result that you’re still a bit, you know, manly around one another. Aka, awkward. Things have changed and we want to be involved with our kids. Start as you mean to go on. Find out what’s going on.

She wants you to – Also long gone are the days when pregnant women went into a mysterious giggly huddle with each other for nine months, kept it all to themselves and came home from the hospital with something that looked suspiciously like a baby. Most women are going to want you to be involved all the way through. That means from the point of maximum fun right through to the day months later when you get to see how clever you were.

The more you know, the better at it you are – Right, so playing football at a professional level is a matter of instinct? And training is completely pointless? And so is reading the workshop manual before stripping down the gearbox? You try it.

6 out of 10 expectant dads do it – It’s not strange behaviour, it’s not bizarre, no-one’s going to give you odd looks. On the contrary, you’ll meet lots of men in the same boat who might become friends for life. After all, you’re going to have kids of the same age.

Ok, ok. What goes on? – Think of it like a car maintenance class. It’s a pregnant lady maintenance class. That’s it. It’s not all sitting cross-legged on the floor playing breathing games and humming. There’s lots of solid practical stuff as well. Here’s what they cover.

Health – She has to stay healthy, eat properly, exercise, give up smoking and alcohol. Carrying a baby and giving birth puts a huge strain on her body and the better shape it’s in, the easier it will be for her. And it’s easier for her if you’re cutting helping her eat properly and exercise. After all, baby is going to make demands on your stamina as well.

What’s happening during the birth itself – If you’re going to be there, it’s best if you’re not standing around like a spare part. If you understand what’s actually happening, it will be so much better for both of you and you’ll feel a lot better about it.

Pain relief – There’s a whole chemist shop’s worth of pain relief available. They teach you what the different types are good for, when to have them, when not to, what the effects are, and so on. When push comes to shove (literally) she’s not going to be thinking particularly clearly. Really useful if you know what the options are and you’ve talked together about what she wants and what she doesn’t want.

The birth and how you can help – There’s lots of evidence that a woman in labour gets through it more easily if her partner is there. You’ll learn about what you can do, how you can help her relax and how to work with the hospital staff to her advantage.

Breastfeeding – Again, if you understand what breastfeeding is all about and how it works, you’ll be in a much better position to help with any difficulties during the first weeks.

Baby blues – Some women get a bit down after birth. It’s a very emotional time plus their bodies are raging with all sorts of hormones they’re not used to. It’s a time when she’s going to need you to understand.

Baby’s home. What now? – The early weeks can be really exciting and really scary all at the same time. There’s a completely helpless little person to be taken care of and if she has to cope with this on her own, it’s going to be much harder for her than it needs to be.

Top tips for surviving antenatal classes

  • Make sure you ask lots of questions: You don’t want people to think you’re not listening.
  • Be friendly: look – all the other men there are going to be feeling a bit awkward too. You can sympathise with each other.
  • Be courteous to other people in the room, everyone is there to learn and everyone does that differently.